Permission

Sometimes it's hard to understand my father. When I want to go somewhere, like on a camping trip, when I ask him if I can go, he doesn't answer immediately. He is still asking so many questions that somehow lead me to think about not going. I know that my dad is a genuinely nice person which is why I can't tell what he's thinking. I'm afraid that he is not directly saying that I can't go because, since he really is a good person, he doesn't want to hurt me when he tells me that I can't go. If I really want to go somewhere, this is good because I can always go. However, if I'm not sure whether I want to go or not, I'm hoping for him to decide for me. If he says no, then I won't go. The problem is that he never says no. He just tells me that if I really want to go, then I can go. Because of that, I can't tell if would prefer me not to go. Just a few weeks ago, something like this happened. I needed to tell my friend early if I can go or not so that she can invite someone else if I'm can't. My mother said that it's up to my father. To me, it's okay if they don't allow me but they should tell me right away. I sent my father a text about it. He wouldn't answer yes or no immediately. He is still asking so many questions about where I'm going. I really needed an answer at that time so I told my mom(she had the phone at that time) to text him that if doesn't want me to go, he can just tell me. He replied that I was rushing him and that he will just talk to me about it when he gets home. I didn't text him after that. I was a bit irritated because he couldn't tell a straight answer. I have no problem if he says no so why can't he just tell me? It's a good thing his answer was yes so I wouldn't have to tell my friend to make adjustments. I hope that on the next time, he would say that I can't go if he doesn't want me to.